I, like maybe you, struggle with the memories of when people have hurt us. The hardest thing for us to remember is that it not people, but Satanic forces we are reality fighting: (Eph 6:12) “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” No true believer wants to hurt another. Yet we do. Best to seek to forgive, recognizing who we are really struggling against: (2Co 2:10) “To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ; (11) Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.”